Recently PBS was doing fund-raising. One segment was devoted to musical groups and music from the 1950’s. There on stage were singers and groups whose hair had become gray or AWOL, still singing the songs that made them popular. In the audience were many with similar hair color smiling, nodding along, and, in some cases, singing along. I don’t remember much of the ‘50’s but was surprisingly familiar with most all of the music. For me the experience was one of remembering the music. For the audience it seemed the experience was about going back in time and reliving at least some of the era.
Nostalgia versus memory. Is versus used properly here? I am not sure nostalgia is really an opponent of memory, but I am convinced nostalgia and memory are not the same thing. Nostalgia has as its root the Greek word nostos, meaning return. What I witnessed with the PBS audience was nostalgia. With my lack of encounter with the music when it was most popular, I was just exercising memory of songs once heard.
Now I must admit, I have my nostalgic moments. Sometimes even a smell can take me back decades to some past experience. I have noticed with many collectibles such as toy trains, baseball cards, Barbie Dolls, etc. that their financial value typically goes in steep decline once those who had these as children are no longer around. Better than even Star Trek’s transporter, many collectibles seem to take us back more quickly to what we often view as some ideal time in life.
There is a saying that says “Nostalgia is like a grammar lesson. It finds the present tense and the past perfect.” That it does. It seems nostalgia is experienced best through rose colored lenses. Memory, on the other hand can also edit out pain and struggle, but it also can include it so strongly that years later an experience still hurts enough to at least cloud the eyes.
Christians are human. We are both nostalgic and people of memory. While it is fine to be nostalgic about certain things, experiences, and times, we cannot live there. Nor can we always live in memory. Christians are to live primarily in the present with hope for the future, God’s future.
This is why Jesus’ death on a cross is so significant for us. We need not invent and hide behind some illusory past. We can remember pain and hurt put upon us as well as caused by us. We are those reconciled by the cross of Jesus. We are those whom God forgives. Jesus did not simply forgive sins. More so, God forgave sinners. Sinners are you and I and sinners are those who caused us hurt. Can we remember the past, enjoy it where appropriate, and also, where needed, can we forgive the past? This, actually, can be one of the tasks before us in living in the present as we continue now to struggle with forgiveness of deeds long behind us.
We need not weigh down the present by thinking we had some idyllic past. That would be an unfair burden added to an imperfect present. Enjoy old works of music, collectibles of childhood, or wherever nostalgia takes you. Just don’t live there. We can’t. We live in the only place where we can truly live: in the present. It is okay and even necessary to bring out the memories of tough times. It is only by having them out and in front of us that we can deal with them and have any hope of forgiveness and moving on.
Neither the past nor the future are places where God seems most to be present. God is most with us now. God wants to be part of the pain and struggle. This is where God’s presence is strongest; in the here and now. This is where prayer and praise of God needs to happen; in the present. Nostalgia isn’t what it used to be! Certainly not. But the present is where God operates best. God is still what God used to be and will be.